This past week a good friend of mine called to vent a little about the struggles of being a newlywed. She got married last summer and as she talked, it so reminded me of when Jason and I were first married. Joining lives really isn’t as easy as we seem to think it should be.
Jason and I dated for 3 years before getting married, so luckily we had gotten over some of the most trivial issues – toilet paper over or under, silverware in the dishwasher pointed up or down, the proper way to load the dishwasher in general, etc. Even after tackling those “major” first world problems issues, we still had a LOT to learn about each other and a lot to learn to compromise on.
After our conversation was over (and I hope she was encouraged a little) I had time to reflect on the fact that every example I had of Jason and I was past tense. I realized we don’t run into those squabbles and misunderstandings nearly as often now. Whether it’s because we’ve learned each other’s quirks now or because we’re quicker to extend grace and try not to jump to conclusions about things, it’s nice to feel that comfort with each other. It helped me better understand what joining our lives means and gave me, yet again, such an appreciation for Jason and our life together.
It also made me realize our anniversary is in a week and a half and I totally forgot! For those of you keeping track, the answer is 3 years… How long does it take for Malorie (who’s terrible with remembering birthdays/anniversaries/milestone dates) to forget about her own anniversary? 3 years.
Jason: So who here can believe that Malorie and I have been dating for one year? I wouldn’t believe you if you told me that, so you shouldn’t believe me either. Actually, you should believe me, because it’s true! We started dating on July 6, 2009.
Malorie: It should be easy to remember our anniversary date, since it’s right after the 4th of July, but I still forgot. 🙁 I remembered on the 4th, but by the time 2 days had passed, I forgot. Jason brought me flowers which I thought was a random act of kindness, but I guess it wasn’t so random. Pretty flowers, aren’t they?
Us: So, we celebrated the day after. We decided to enjoy the fantastic summer weather we’ve been having by going to dinner at The Cliff House Restaurant overlooking Bellingham Bay. In retrospect, it may have been a little too nice of summer weather (aka, it was hot!), but we enjoyed their outdoor seating anyway. Dinner was delicious, as you can see from the pictures.
Walnut and Herb Encrusted Halibut
Seafood Pasta Primavera
We also got to watch the sailboats practicing for the sailboat races.
View From Our Table
Jason: Through all the great times and hardships we had this past year, I can’t wait to see what this next year has in store for us!
Malorie: Jason and I have gotten to know each other pretty well this past year. We’ve seen each other go through good, exciting things and frustrating, disappointing things. And after a year of it, we’re still happy to be dating – I think that’s a good sign. 🙂
One Year Anniversary!
Today was my 4 year anniversary at work. That sounds like a LONG time to me. That is, until I compare it to Jason’s 8 years (and counting) at his company. I think we were both lucky to find good jobs at a young age and have both accrued a lot of work experience at a young age as a result. It makes me feel like we’re an old couple though, since we’re both pretty well established in our jobs and quite a few of our peers are still working on getting through college or just now trying to find a job and getting started with “real life”.
I started wondering how I’ve made it through 4 years already. What keeps me here? Is it the company or the work that I really enjoy? After thinking on this for a little while, I was brought back to a conversation I had recently with a co-worker. We realized that we see the people in our office more than we see our own family and friends (If you include weekends we decided that we do see our family/friends more which makes it a little less depressing). And if I’m going to spend the majority of my life, Monday-Friday, with the people in my office, I sure as heck better like them! My office currently has three occupants, two other ladies and myself, and luckily we all get a long great. When you start a new job, there are no guarantees as to whether you will all get along or even be able to tolerate each other. And since you’ll spend more time with them than any other people (Mon-Fri), isn’t it important to have good co-workers? I am lucky to spend 8+ hours a day with people that I respect, can talk to, and have a few laughs with along the way.
I’ve never been super career driven. Spending 40+ hours a week at work doesn’t really excite me, but obviously it’s necessary. And I consider myself lucky that more often than not I’m okay with going to work. I rarely dread it at least, which is more than some can say. So after 4 years I can say the company’s not that bad, I get paid well enough to support myself, and I wouldn’t trade my co-workers for anything.
… I don’t think my “4 year anniversary” sounds so bad anymore.